Howtodealwiththesetbacks
We’veallhitthatbumpintheroad,thesetback,theproblem.Whatsetspeopleapartishowtheyreacttothatbump.Areyouonetospinoutofcontrol,indespair?Ordoyougrabaholdofthatwheelandsteeryourselfstraight?Whetherit’saschoolassignment,aworkproject,oravolunteermission,weallencounterthingsthatslowusdown.Youjusthavetokeepinmindthatasetbackisonlytemporaryandgreaterthingslayahead.
Itiseasyjusttoquit,giveupandignorethehardworkyouhaveputintosomething.ButatSparkPeople,webelieveinthe"twostepsforward,onestepback"philosophy.Sowhatifsomethingbadhappens?Keepmovingforward,developingwhatyouhave.You’vealreadybuiltasolidfoundationonwhichyoucanrely.Hardworkcan’tbeoverlooked.
Sohowcanyoureactwhensomethingdoesn’tturnoutasyou’veexpected?First,beobjective.Stepbackandlookatthesituation.Takeresponsibilitywhereitisdue,butdon’tplaceblameonothers.Isyoursetbackreallythatsignificant,orwillitjustrequirealittleextraexertiononyourpart?Cometotermswithitandthenstartplanningyournextmove.Askforhelp.Don’tbeafraidorashamedtodothis.Oftentimes,peoplearemorethanwillingtogiveyousupportandadvice,maybeevenafterbeinginasimilarsituation.Youdon’thavetobeperfect;afterall,nobodyelseis.
Bounceback.Reevaluatethegoalsyoushouldhavesetforyourselfatthebeginningandretoolthemasnecessary.Goalsshouldberealisticandspecific,butthatdoesn’tmeantheycan’tbeflexibleandareallowedforminorimpediments.Insteadoflookingatyourprojectasadisasterorfailure,viewitwithsuccess.Concentrateonhowgreatitwillfeelafteritisfinallydone,afteryouhaveputyourallintoit.Insteadoffocusingonapossibleunsatisfactoryperformanceonesingletime,takeamomenttositbackandrewardyourselfforallthatyouhaveaccomplished.
Aboveall,don’tlivewithregrets.Approachlifewithperseveranceanddedicationtothethingsthatmattermosttoyou.Successisnevereasy.Itremainsuptoyouwhetheryouwillgiveup,orfightthroughthetoughbattlestoearnwhateveritisyouwant.
AfragmentofapoembyRalphWaldoEmersonistelling:
"FinisheachdayAndbedonewithit.
Youhavedonewhatyoucould.Someblundersandabsurditieshavecreptin.Forgetthemassoonasyoucan."
Moveonwithyourlife.Keepreachingforyourgoalsandyouwillachievethem.Oneminorsetbackisnothingifyoureallywantsomethingandarewillingtoworkforit.